We could give a lot of reasons why a child needs to be in the driver’s seat of their learning, but in the end, this issue really comes down to taking a leap of faith. A parent must have the ability to put their faith in their child’s inherent wisdom (or at least the need for the child to learn their own lessons when they fail to exercise wisdom).Our experience with parents has shown us that the deeper issue is usually not an inability to trust the child, but an inability to trust themselves. This is the crux of the matter. Most of us have grown up immersed in systems that teach us we aren’t trustworthy. We went to schools which don’t trust us (as described above), maybe had protective parents at home, and live in a patronizing society with untrusting laws, limiting choices to narrow menus options of majors, classes, careers, or political parties. Most internalize the message that we can’t really be trusted.
It is a powerful thing we do in asking parents to take this leap of faith in trusting themselves. To step outside the box of a dysfunctional educational system and extend that faith further to actually trusting their children. Just making this choice… this leap… can be life-changing. It certainly alters the fabric of relationship within a family. And most importantly, the children immediately start learning they can trust themselves — a lesson many adults have still been denied. — From the ALC Starter KIt
Trust, Trust, Trust — building new pathways in your brain of trust is serious work. So simple, so true, so new. THIS is why Our Kids show us the way to our true selves.
Becky has dispelled the myth that you can’t have it all… Becky’s a Mom of 6, a loving wife and a purposeful parenting coach. Her level of self-awareness and her continual focus on being her best self is what sets her apart. Becky is a Conscious Coach who can truly help any person awaken to their highest purpose. A nurturer to her core… Becky’s work is at the heart of what our families most need… as she provides the pathway to self-love, family connectedness and, ultimately, a better community and a higher level of consciousness that is changing our World for the better.
