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There is another way…..

There is another way…..

  As I began to raise my children and felt either compelled to use bribery/ punishment or just ignore everything and "hope" for the best, I noticed neither way gave me peace of mind for long (if at all). I began a journey looking for another way. I discovered...

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House-keeping, Taxi-driving, Resident cook:

House-keeping, Taxi-driving, Resident cook:

   There is this place I stand in the assembly line moving the machine forward. Feeding this in and taking that out and moving this lever forward to make the great beast of RESPONSIBILITY inch onward. My mind wanders. What if I went to the beach?*ka-chunk*. I’d like...

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My own journey of self discovery

My own journey of self discovery

  In  my own journey of self-discovery, I have come across many limiting beliefs. They have prevented me in the past from living the life that I loved. These beliefs were put into place as a young child, and initially I found fault with my parents because of them. I...

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How Beautiful It Is To Let Things Go

How Beautiful It Is To Let Things Go

  So where do you find yourself with this deep ugly emotion? The picture to the last post is so perfect. “can’t spell failure without U.” This is the place it comes from –you pointing your finger at you and criticizing or degrading. I didn’t make it on the bike ride,...

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Caught In a Loop

Caught In a Loop

    Do you ever feel caught in a vicious cycle? I watched my boys act out a cycle I know only too well. I honed it in school and it still shows up in my life sometimes, today. This is what it looked like for them 1: assignment they didn’t want to do (negative...

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Stuck…

Stuck…

    Over and over again, I find myself in the same situation. STUCK. Feeling like I’m not enough in some way or another. So my mind goes to work in “figuring out” a new solution. I’ve changed my circumstance many times, and still keep coming to the same dead end....

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Big Emotions

Big Emotions

     Sometimes our hurt, anger, fear is so big we don’t want to feel it so we take drastic action in the middle of it. What if, in the middle of it, you froze the frame and stepped out to the observer position. Then started the feelings again. From position of...

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Hopes, Dreams, and the Truth

Hopes, Dreams, and the Truth

    This week with this rare full moon, be prepared for some deeper emotions to be stirred up! It will guide you for 2018! This is the opportunity to see the gifts in past experience that at the time may have felt “bad” or “wrong”. Take the time to allow the emotions...

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Minimalize to bring freedom

Minimalize to bring freedom

I need to start writing again, staring at this blank page is not helpful. I have so many thoughts I want to capture: Decluttering is like Melting snow – starts with a mindshift of a few degrees. Raise the temperature and it all melts away. It may look messier at first...

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I Heard A Story…

I Heard A Story…

   I heard a story* that really spoke to me. I’ll paraphrase it: a little girl forgot to feed the chickens because an important guest came to visit. When her mother reminded her the guest volunteered to accompany her. She grabbed the big flashlight and pranced out...

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Dreamt about Rhinos last night…

Dreamt about Rhinos last night…

    I think it has to do with decision making. How do you make decisions? Is it a long process or a short one? Listening to all parts of me is a challenge. I’m learning there are more parts of me that weigh in on a decision, not just my mind or just my heart, both of...

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Starting Unschooling as a Teen

Starting Unschooling as a Teen

    I had an interesting conversation with my son this weekend after listening to this podcast: https://livingjoyfully.ca/…/eu129-starting-unschooling…/ I asked him if he ever woke up with an idea of what he wanted to do but then had to do all this other stuff. He...

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CEO of the household

CEO of the household

    5 years ago I sat my kids down and told them I took a new job. I was no longer their servant but CEO of the household. I wanted to teach them to be more independent and loving as I was becoming more independent and loving of myself. It worked well. Today, I...

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Drop the agenda, set the intention.

Drop the agenda, set the intention.

    Family meeting didn't go so well this morning, the kids could smell my hidden agenda a mile away. The resistance was palpable. It took me a few hours to clue into what was going on. Unfortunately I couldn't smell my hidden agenda as well as them. When I relaxed...

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Trusting the Process:

Trusting the Process:

    I committed to family dinners when schedules permitted. Coming off of school, there is a lot of unlearning from the lunchroom that has to be done, eating as fast as you can, talking at the same time as everyone else, only looking out for your own needs and no one...

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Today: Holding the Structure…

Today: Holding the Structure…

    I slept in, it was raining, it felt glorious. Don't you love sleeping in on rainy days? I do to. My kids slept in or indulged in screen time. When it came to breakfast and intention setting time.... it was painful for me. I felt like I was trying to move mud with...

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A LEAP OF FAITH

A LEAP OF FAITH

    We could give a lot of reasons why a child needs to be in the driver’s seat of their learning, but in the end, this issue really comes down to taking a leap of faith. A parent must have the ability to put their faith in their child’s inherent wisdom (or at least...

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How Do You Define Success?

How Do You Define Success?

  What if your education track wasn’t based on a “career assessment” you took in 8th grade? What if you valued what you were learning and saw its purpose? What if you understood how you uniquely interacted with others and felt unaffected by other people’s opinions?...

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Enjoying some time to myself!

Enjoying some time to myself!

  I’m investing in a lot of me- time. I am an extrovert and the youngest in a big family and have a big family— my whole life I’ve been surrounded by people, they give me energy. But recently I began to discover the joy of being alone. My goal this year is to spend...

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I decided to quit my job

I decided to quit my job

   I decided to quit my job. I told my kids I had a new job. They all looked at me with sad faces and said “so we won’t see you as much?” I said No, but I’m not going to do for you what you can do for yourself anymore. AND I’m not going to yell. What I told myself is...

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